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Supporting dad/non-birthing parents...
Often, after the loss of a pregnancy or baby, family and friends focus on the needs of the mother and overlook the needs and grief of the father/non-birthing parent (NBP) who lost the same baby/pregnancy. We recognize that unfortunate fact and are working hard to help change the way people think about and respond to loss. Men, in particular, tend to handle emotions much differently than their female counterparts and your grief is no different. For non-birthing parents, regardless of gender, there is still a need for specialized support in the aftermath to explore their grief, connect with others and find validation for their experience. Below are profiles of other loss dads who are seeking to support other dads at the nest.
Brent Samuelson
Dad to Jimmie (stillbirth), Chloe (ectopic loss) and Beatrix (rainbow birth)
Southern NJ
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Text: 609-442-1511
Email: bs.threelittlebirds@gmail.com
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Please reach out if you don't know what to do with your feelings or need someone to talk to. You are not alone, friend!
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Yousuf Shamim
Dad to Zara Frances (stillborn)
Philadelphia, PA
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Text: 610-507-0951
Email: YAS.3LB@gmail.com
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Even if you feel you don't need the support, you'd be shocked at how nice it is to be around people who can relate!
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Rick Harmening
Dad to Stephen (neonatal/twin loss)
Southern NJ
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Text: 609-462-2486
Email: Ricklinharmening@yahoo.com
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As a Dad in the military, I usually conform to the "adjust on the fly" mentality. When I lost my son Stephen to an illness seven days after birth I was lost. I didn't know who to turn to or how to ask for help as I was going through this all the while being strong to support my wife, daughter, and Stephen's twin, RJ, still being in the NICU. Along came Three Little Birds and they had all the resources I could have ever asked for. I am just getting into the swing of things and hope to return the favor to other parents going through something similar.
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Paul Jay Cohen
Dad to Izzy, River, Finn & Grace (miscarriages)
Southern Jersey Shore
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Text: 215-805-4809
Email: pauljaycohen2@gmail.com
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Like many loss dads, I could barely whisper "I need help" after our losses. The Three Little Birds community was the first I found that could hear me and that made me feel at home. They gave me the support (and the space) that I needed to heal. I wish I would have reached out sooner!
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Quinnzel Robinson
Dad to Mila Kelly and Mylo Luis (early neonatal loss)
Philadelphia, PA
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Text: 267-265-5150
Email: quinnzelrobinson@gmail.com
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Three Little Birds has made the hardest time in my life bearable. Nothing can be soothe the pain of loosing a child. But, the support my wife and I receive here helps more than I could’ve imagined. Read more about Quinnzel's legacy project, the MFFL here!
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JP Loggia
Dad to Emerson Rae (stillbirth) and Elia Rae (rainbow birth)
Philadelphia, PA
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Text: 610-324-9473
Email: johnpaul.loggia@gmail.com
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Three Little Birds was a critical resource for my wife and I in our time of need. It is a great community of families that all truly care for each other.
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Resources for partners:
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Join the MFFL! - Local loss dad Quinnzel created a fantasy football league in memory of his daughter, Mila. The winner of the fundraising league will receive a large flat screen TV!
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Love Comma Dad - Care packages from perinatal loss dads to other loss dads.
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Red Nose Grief & Loss Series - a video series of discussions by perinatal loss parents.
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Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back - This book is a collection of candid stories from grieving dads that were interviewed over a two year period. It is a collection of survival stories by men who have survived the worst possible loss and lived to tell the tale. The core message of Grieving Dads is “you’re not alone.” It is a message that desperately needs to be delivered to grieving dads who often grieve in silence due to society’s expectations.”